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queerfeministagenda:
queerfeministagenda:
im so…tired of “love wins” and “love is love” being the #1 talking point in lgbt+ acceptance campaigns. for one thing, as this post points out, it completely excludes trans people who are lgbt+ because of their gender, not because of who they love
but also….i feel like i’m lgbtqia+ because of who i am not because of who i love, or who i might love in the future. i want people to accept me for who i am, and because this is a part of me, not because of who i love.
the people i love don’t define me, i define me, and i dont want people to accept me because they think my relationship is worthy of respect. i want people to respect me because they think that i am worthy of respect, no matter who i date, who i love, who i have in my life.
other things pointed out in the notes+tags of this post/other thoughts ive had
- bi people in different gender relationships already have their “love” respected and it doesn’t mean that people respect their identities. people even use that love to invalidate bi people’s identities
- not all lgbt+ people experience or want to experience “love”, e.g. aromantic people
- its v. alienating to lgbtqia+ people who have never been in relationship or have never experienced love
- its based on the concept of romantic love as the Most Important Thing when people already focus too much on romantic relationships, sometimes to the detriment of their own wellbeing, non-romantic relationships, or mental health
queerfeministagenda:
queerfeministagenda:
im so…tired of “love wins” and “love is love” being the #1 talking point in lgbt+ acceptance campaigns. for one thing, as this post points out, it completely excludes trans people who are lgbt+ because of their gender, not because of who they love
but also….i feel like i’m lgbtqia+ because of who i am not because of who i love, or who i might love in the future. i want people to accept me for who i am, and because this is a part of me, not because of who i love.
the people i love don’t define me, i define me, and i dont want people to accept me because they think my relationship is worthy of respect. i want people to respect me because they think that i am worthy of respect, no matter who i date, who i love, who i have in my life.
other things pointed out in the notes+tags of this post/other thoughts ive had
- bi people in different gender relationships already have their “love” respected and it doesn’t mean that people respect their identities. people even use that love to invalidate bi people’s identities
- not all lgbt+ people experience or want to experience “love”, e.g. aromantic people
- its v. alienating to lgbtqia+ people who have never been in relationship or have never experienced love
- its based on the concept of romantic love as the Most Important Thing when people already focus too much on romantic relationships, sometimes to the detriment of their own wellbeing, non-romantic relationships, or mental health