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adriengriffon:
thebestpersonherelovesbucky:
witchaj:
poblacht-na-n-oibrithe:
Straight women should unionize
What the actual FUCK
This right here is a HUGE red fucking flag. If you’re in a relationship with someone who wants complete control over finances, especially to the point where you don’t even have access to money, this is an attempt to control and isolate. They will use ALL sorts of excuses. “I’m better with money” “You spend too much” “You’re too impulsive” etc. It has nothing to do with looking out for you or money. It’s straight up abuse and will likely lead to worse.
Ladies, please, *please* take it from someone who has been there and my mother and father who have also been there: HAVE SEPARATE BANK ACCOUNTS.
Joint checking accounts are a relic from another era when the man worked and the woman stayed at home with the children. They leave you with no way to ever have money that your partner doesn’t potentially have access to. Even if you DO stay at home with the children, have your own bank account.
People who insist that you NEED a joint checking account should be treated like the giant red flag that they are and sent packing. It doesn’t matter how good they are or how much they love you, if they loved you, they’d respect your right to personal autonomy.
(P.S. My mom and dad are still happily married, my mom is just slightly more of an impulsive spender than my father and so they got separate bank accounts so she could take care of her share of bills and spend her extra money without accidentally spending dad’s share of bills.)
You can have both. I have a joint account which I use to buy groceries and things for us both, and my own personal account which I use if I want to buy things without discussion or compromise. I hardly ever use it but it’s there if I need it.
adriengriffon:
thebestpersonherelovesbucky:
witchaj:
poblacht-na-n-oibrithe:
Straight women should unionize
What the actual FUCK
This right here is a HUGE red fucking flag. If you’re in a relationship with someone who wants complete control over finances, especially to the point where you don’t even have access to money, this is an attempt to control and isolate. They will use ALL sorts of excuses. “I’m better with money” “You spend too much” “You’re too impulsive” etc. It has nothing to do with looking out for you or money. It’s straight up abuse and will likely lead to worse.
Ladies, please, *please* take it from someone who has been there and my mother and father who have also been there: HAVE SEPARATE BANK ACCOUNTS.
Joint checking accounts are a relic from another era when the man worked and the woman stayed at home with the children. They leave you with no way to ever have money that your partner doesn’t potentially have access to. Even if you DO stay at home with the children, have your own bank account.
People who insist that you NEED a joint checking account should be treated like the giant red flag that they are and sent packing. It doesn’t matter how good they are or how much they love you, if they loved you, they’d respect your right to personal autonomy.
(P.S. My mom and dad are still happily married, my mom is just slightly more of an impulsive spender than my father and so they got separate bank accounts so she could take care of her share of bills and spend her extra money without accidentally spending dad’s share of bills.)
You can have both. I have a joint account which I use to buy groceries and things for us both, and my own personal account which I use if I want to buy things without discussion or compromise. I hardly ever use it but it’s there if I need it.